Give yourself Time to Grieve

Oh come on, move on. What are you making such a big deal of? Its only that youve broken up. Youre young. Youll find someone else. Be strong! Stop crying. Bear with the loss stoically. Dont sweat. It was only a job! They didnt deserve you anyways. Get a grip. And the list goes on How often do we find well-meaning relatives and friends telling us that we need to move on, be strong, keep our chins up and what have you. Their inte...

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Brands Make a Man?

Dont judge a book by its cover for covers can often flatter to deceive! I wish the youth of today wouldnt use brands to flatter themselves or their peers. Nothing wrong with buying and wearing products that are styled, comfortable, and whose hallmark is quality. But how many of us buy, wear, or choose makes for those reasons alone? Do we really purchase on the basis of how things suit us? Or the fact that we love their attributes? Th...

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Is your Man Off Sex?

REASONS The reasons for being off sex can be varied. Right from the physiological (but I wont get into that) to the mental. Psychosexual aspects unfortunately are rarely considered when it comes to a mans sexuality maybe because thats so unmanly! To accept that his sex organs are between his ears rather than his legs makes many a man squirm! But the importance of what he THINKS cant be emphasized enough. Because, as you think so yo...

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At the Dawn of the Individual Revolution

Revolution, besides having many meanings, also includes a dramatic change in ideas or practice. And thats exactly whats happening to a lot many people today. Albeit delayed, the Indian person is now beginning to realize that he lives only once and since life is unpredictable and to an extent unreliable, why waste this precious existence going through the motions of mundane routinized living. So he literally and figuratively has taken ...

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Emotionally Yours

Pujasparents brought her to see me one day, worried there was something wrong with their daughter. Over the last few months, there seemed to have been a drastic change in her behavior. Until then a fun-loving, gregarious girl, she now kept to herself, speaking only when spoken to and interacting minimally with family and friends. She broods the whole day, her mother said. In fact, she has even stopped attending the art classes that s...

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Re-inventing the Father

From tyrannical to sympathetic. From dictatorial to flexible. From hardheaded to soft. Has male parenting come of age? Many would argue and say it dependsSome would affirm that the new father is here to stay. Others, that its only a passing phase. Whatever the opinions, theres no denying the fact that the mans role in parenting has altered. Where previously fathers were only seen and not heard, today more and more are felt, present an...

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Sparing the Kids

Divorce the second biggest stressor after death of a loved one often leads to anguish, disharmony and strife between the partners. Combine that with a tug of war between the parents to get children onto their side and what do you have? Needless turmoil where children are used as pawns and are forced to play games with their parents. A game so dreadful that no winners emerge and the losers (if they dont resolve issues) often suffer c...

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Commitment Phobia

So when should we tie the knot? Oh, Im not ready yet! When mydivorce comes through! (Which usually the personnever gets down to getting!).As soon asI move into my own house.Maybe when Im a little more settled.Maybe when Im sure that you love me more than you do your mother! Maybe, maybe, maybe. . . Sound familiar? How many people have we seen waiting endlessly for their knightin shining armour or forthe woman of their dreams!It is sai...

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