Give yourself Time to Grieve

Oh come on, move on. What are you making such a big deal of? Its only that youve broken up. Youre young. Youll find someone else. Be strong! Stop crying. Bear with the loss stoically. Dont sweat. It was only a job! They didnt deserve you anyways. Get a grip. And the list goes on How often do we find well-meaning relatives and friends telling us that we need to move on, be strong, keep our chins up and what have you. Their inte...

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Is your Man Off Sex?

REASONS The reasons for being off sex can be varied. Right from the physiological (but I wont get into that) to the mental. Psychosexual aspects unfortunately are rarely considered when it comes to a mans sexuality maybe because thats so unmanly! To accept that his sex organs are between his ears rather than his legs makes many a man squirm! But the importance of what he THINKS cant be emphasized enough. Because, as you think so yo...

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Commitment Phobia

So when should we tie the knot? Oh, Im not ready yet! When mydivorce comes through! (Which usually the personnever gets down to getting!).As soon asI move into my own house.Maybe when Im a little more settled.Maybe when Im sure that you love me more than you do your mother! Maybe, maybe, maybe. . . Sound familiar? How many people have we seen waiting endlessly for their knightin shining armour or forthe woman of their dreams!It is sai...

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Solitary Existence

Single and ready to mingle? But what happens when the mingling is often with couples, lovers, twosomes? How can you hold your own without sticking out like a sore thumb or without feeling like youre a fish out of water who cant be in his/her element? A large part of your comfort would depend on how comfortable you are with you! And about what you think of your solitary status. The meanings you ascribe to being solo, and the outlook yo...

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Single Parenting

Raising children can be exhausting and sometimes onerous more so when single parents feel that they have to compensate for the lack of the second, they often end up overcompensating. With an idea of proving to themselves and to the rest that they are leaving no stone unturned, single parents often overexert, taking on more than they can handle, thus making parenting needlessly more difficult and unpleasant for themselves. Often, with...

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Working Well Together

Lets appreciate that not everyone can work well in groups. Some of us are too individualistic and thrive alone. Put that solitary worker into a group or team situation, and challenges suddenly become obstacles! To work well two-gether necessitates understanding fore-mostly who you are. If you are that die-hard individual and prefer single ventures rather than joint ones, accept that gracefully. Dont try and be something that youre inh...

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Working Relationships

Relationships require work, hard, hard work. In the same way that we strive to climb the corporate ladder, be that sought after actor, and make a name for ourselves in whatever we decide to pursue equal effort, energy and devotion is required to make relationships succeed. Alas not too many of us realize let alone acknowledge this fact. And then we wonder why we drifted apart, fell out of love, or why we cant connect anymore. With wo...

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Work In the Now

Do what you can, with where you are and with what you have. Imagine if we heeded these wise words, made it the dictum of our life, and truly lived by it. The result wouldnt be hard to guess; something most of us long for living in the now. But we do just the contrary. Looking before and after, and pining for what is not! And then we wonder why we arent able to focus, stay tuned, or attend to things at hand. The trouble, if youd like ...

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